By Shana Davies on 6/25/2012 10:48 AM

It’s all about the weight these days. This is especially true about women and our weight status. Our media-based society unabashedly dictates that a woman needs to be thin to be attractive, thin to appear healthy, and thin to get a man. Women spend lots of money, time, and energy on being thin; very, very thin. This may be a prevailing attitude as well as a seemingly accepted norm, but I say it’s all about the weight in relation to health; not to be thin, but physically fit. And most men out there looking for a woman will agree that fit is appealing and thin is not. 



So women, listen up! Thin really is not IN! Be fit, healthy and curvy! If it’s your top priority to be healthy and at a “healthy” weight for your height and age, then you are just where you need to be if you’re single and looking. Be working hard towards this goal or if you are already there then, maintaining it is...

By Shana Davies on 6/18/2012 3:50 PM

I was at a charity event this weekend; a gala to benefit the Leukemia Lymphoma Society.  The night was very special.  My whole family was there to support my sister’s boyfriend in his “Man of the Year” fundraising campaign and to pay tribute to my grandmother who lost her battle with a blood cancer in March.  

The ballroom room was packed with strangers, but everyone felt like an old friend.  The room was filled with love.  It reminded me of a favorite Audrey Hepburn quote, “Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get – only with what you are expecting to give – which is everything.”

This got me to thinking…

It is only a matter of time before a Master Matchmakers coaching client will say, “I have everything, except that special someone to share it all with”.

It is true.  Our clients have supportive families, incredible friends and impressive academic and professional accomplishments.  They are also intelligent, interesting and invested-in being the person they want to be with and finding “the one”.

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By Steven Ward on Thursday, June 14, 2012

The expression “online dating” is now a misnomer. If you think it just means using Jdate or Match to meet someone you’re sorely mistaken. Online dating sites have been around since the mid nineties but when it comes to finding love these days the term “online dating” has taken on a whole new meaning.

Aside from the havoc now wreaked on our love lives thanks to Googling each other and texting our every passing thought, the days when it was taboo to engage someone online have long passed.  A decade ago RIM made a splash with the once infamous Blackberry designed for the corporate man or woman to do business on the go. With email now constantly at ones’ fingertips we were armed with a pen of limitless ink capable of the most deliberately drafted love letters or impulsive notes on a whim. Temperance and good judgment had met their match. No longer would cooler heads prevail on our way home or to the office or while working at our desks or in the field. Now professional men and women of the world could flirt, fight and screw up with a simple text or lengthy email at any given moment. This newfound technology ushered in the era of “sexting” and “dick pics”. Incriminating call logs and messages started ruining relationships left and right. But then, what might go down as the greatest moment in social history occurred…Facebook was invented.

By Steven Ward on Wednesday, June 06, 2012

I was asked to write a piece about excuses men use to avoid a commitment.  Since most of these excuses are just the same unwelcomed gift in different wrapping I thought it would be easier and more worthwhile if I just tried to explain why men are so reluctant to commit.

Since we’re children, boys who become men are always taught to pursue anything; something, someone.  Capturing what we desire is what we learn to consider…“success”.  Whether it’s learning to walk into our mother’s arms, capturing the flag among friends, scoring a touchdown, acing a test, breaking a record, graduating with honors or getting the girl this is what women unfairly equivocate to the “thrill of the hunt”. 

For a lot of men commitment is compulsive.  They feel their family, friends and even society expect them to make a commitment when it seems there’s no reason for them not to.  If they’ve finished school, have a job, have a home and can pay their bills people around them may expect it’s time to “settle down”. 

I don’t think this aversion to settle down rests as much in the expectation to be monogamous like most women would like to think.  I think what deters us more than anything is the price we pay if it doesn’t work out.

By Shana Davies on 6/4/2012 10:52 AM

It’s true, you can fall in love with a man who doesn’t salsa dance or like red wine (your two favorite things.) You can have a long term meaningful relationship with a guy who lives for camping in the woods and takes his fantasy football team seriously (your least favorite things.) Don’t dismiss a woman just because she has brown hair instead of blonde, or because she never wears high heels.

True, lasting love does not depend upon shared interests or physical attraction. Too often, I have seen men and women ignore potentially good matches based on physical traits, different interests or even the tone of someone’s voice.

What makes people so dismissive based upon superficial things? It could be fear (of commitment, of rejection.) It could be living in a time when we are fortunate to be able to customize our products.  But there is no app for choosing a mate. You can’t order up the perfect woman or man as you would choose your flat bread toppings.

Want to know the best way to find the right person for you? Be interested in people. Just meet people whenever and wherever you can.  If you can find people interesting-- explore who they are and get to know them—then you will meet some pretty interesting people.