By Steven Ward on
Thursday, July 19, 2012
Since the dawn of man we’ve competed for food, shelter and mates. It has always been “survival of the fittest”. Time and time again it’s proven that natural selection was a key accelerant to the birth of human civilization roughly 8,000 years ago. Over the last several millennia we’ve become more and less, more and less, and more and less civilized. Genetically and physiologically however, we have been coded to behave the same way for at least the last 60,000 years. Civilization began when we finally became conscious that we must adapt to survive.
I’ve been a matchmaker for a decade and a lot has happened to the world of dating and mating in just the last ten years alone. Blackberry, MySpace and The Bachelor first appeared in 2002. Then came Facebook, YouTube, the IPhone and Twitter. We’ve gone from dial up to broadband and can now communicate worldwide in real time. The speed of life now moves at the speed of light and the world around us is changing as rapidly as ever. To succeed, to survive, we must change along with it. ...
By Steven Ward on
Friday, July 13, 2012
I came across this article
the other day and was intrigued by the debate and research over and into arranged marriages. As a modern day matchmaker I have no problem adding to this discussion. I'm proud of the success we've enjoyed at Master Matchmakers helping countless men and women find, date and keep "the one". But make no mistake about it, there is absolutely no correlation between why relationships fall apart and how the couple met. Any so-called evidence to the contrary is anecdotal at best and capricious and arbitrary to say the least.
I do think however there is something to be said about the psychology of someone who resorts to matchmaking to meet their match. The mentality of that group may have something to do with the fact their relationships last more often than those of people who met on their own. Much to my chagrin, matchmaking is not nearly as hip...
By Shana Davies on
7/2/2012 12:04 PM
This month’s Atlantic Monthly magazine’s cover story by Anne-Marie Slaughter, a Princeton University professor and former deputy to Secretary of State Hillary Clinton, has had everyone talking, blogging and most of all, arguing.
The gist of Dr. Slaughter’s piece is that women must inevitable choose between a high powered career and having a family. I don’t want to re-hash her position or go into the backlash and support she has had from all ends of the political spectrum.
My concern is how career/life balance affects my clients.
So often I hear women say, “I have been focused on my career. I haven’t had time to work on a relationship.” It’s easy to brush this off as an excuse. Look at men, they have careers and families. But as Slaughter holds the US Supreme Court up as an example: all six male justices have families, while of the three women, two are single without children and the third (Justice Ginsberg) did not really start her career until her children with in their teen years.