Looking For Love? Give it Away!
6/18/2012 3:50 PM
I was at a charity event this weekend; a gala to benefit the Leukemia Lymphoma Society. The night was very special. My whole family was there to support my sister’s boyfriend in his “Man of the Year” fundraising campaign and to pay tribute to my grandmother who lost her battle with a blood cancer in March.
The ballroom room was packed with strangers, but everyone felt like an old friend. The room was filled with love. It reminded me of a favorite Audrey Hepburn quote, “Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get – only with what you are expecting to give – which is everything.”
This got me to thinking…
It is only a matter of time before a Master Matchmakers coaching client will say, “I have everything, except that special someone to share it all with”.
It is true. Our clients have supportive families, incredible friends and impressive academic and professional accomplishments. They are also intelligent, interesting and invested-in being the person they want to be with and finding “the one”.
So they invest. They invest in the coaching program and our various matchmaking services because they are solution oriented people who realize we can help them achieve their relationship goals.
One way I help my clients achieve their relationship goals is by focusing on the love that already exists in their life. It is easy to take love for granted when we are looking for a very specific kind of love. The truth is when we focus on what is missing, we tend to forget what we have. Attracting romantic love requires a shift in perspective from lack to abundance.
After we recognize the abundance of love, we focus on giving it away. Yes-I want our clients to give their love away because that is what pure love is all about-giving. I encourage our clients to give everyone they cross paths with a gift; a smile, a compliment, a moment of their time, etc.
Which brings me back to the ballroom on Saturday night; a room where hundreds of strangers were brought together to give. I prefer to think of it as to love. The goal was to raise 1.1 million dollars and we did it! Another goal was achieved as well--everyone who was there is now that much closer to realizing their relationship goals (no matter what their relationship status is) as a result of showing up for this wonderful night of giving.
-- Stephanie Florman