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Missouri Matchmaker


Our professional Missouri matchmakers proudly represent eligible, relationship oriented singles who want to meet likeminded, well intentioned individuals. If you prefer to meet someone in your immediate area we can concentrate our search for you there. If you would be open to meeting extraordinary individuals a little further away, you're increasing the likelihood of finding you a match. No matter your location preferences our Missouri matchmakers are ready to help you find, form, and maintain the ideal relationship!

Our team of Missouri Matchmakers will verify age and identity, conduct interviews, and perform background checks to ensure our clients have a safe and worry-free experience. Photos and a personally prepared profile will be shared with every match and you speak before you meet. Your matches won't expire so take the time you need to explore the potential of every introduction.

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Speak with a coordinator to determine the right level of service for you. Each experience is customized to suit a client's needs and budget. Prices will be discussed on the call. To qualify for matchmaking you must prove your identity, verify your age and photos and pass a background check.

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To assist our clients in finding, forming and maintaining the ideal relationship we offer professional dating and relationship coaching as a complement to or substitute for matchmaking. You will meet your coach face-to-face to identify patterns, break habits, learn best practices and plan ahead.

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We present your photos and profile to prospective matches and vice versa. We do our best to advocate for you and create interest. If you both accept the match we exchange numbers and expect you to get acquainted before you meet. Your feedback continuously improves the process.

You're Never Going to Be Happily Married, Unless...

Tuesday, March 14, 2017


You're Never Going to Be Happily Married, Unless...

As a matchmaker and dating coach, I classify people into one of two categories. They're either relationship oriented or not. Many people, men and women alike, truly believe they are fit for a relationship. They think they have everything going for them. They're healthy emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially. They want to have a traditional, nuclear family in a two parent household where both of them can grow as individuals and together as one. But there is one key difference between the relationship oriented people out there, and everyone else.

To the relationship oriented the relationship comes first. You've heard of all the other orientations people have; career oriented, family oriented, sexually oriented, spiritually oriented, etc. It's your orientation that determines your character, and not all character types are condusive to relationships. There has been great debate and extensive study into which character types are "productive" and which are "unproductive".

You may think you're relationship oriented and capable of what you envision, but in reality you're really not. You're never going to be truly happily married, unless you have the right character.

According to Erich Fromm, a neo-Freudian psychoanalyst, personality type is based on two primary needs; freedom and belonging. Kendra Cherry, did a great job of summarizing his philosophy on verywell.com which I've paraphrased here quite a bit.

Fromm determined there are five personality types and every one is one of them. 4/5 are "unproductive" or in the context of relationships, counterproductive.

Receptive Character: The receptive type is constantly in need of support; emotionally, financially, etc. They have a tendency​ to be passive, needy, and completely dependent upon others. Although these people constantly require support they rarely, if ever, reciprocate. People with this character type tend to lack confidence have a difficult time making decisions for themselves. They tend to have grown up with overbearing and controlling parents or parental figures.

Exploitative Character: These people will deceive, mislead, and twist others in order to satisfy their selfish needs. They regularly seek people with low self-esteem or will lie about loving someone they really don't care about. They take what they want either through deceit or force and will exploit others if necessary.

Hoarding Character: These people deal with insecurity by never disposing of or giving up anything. They often collect meaningless objects and will care more about their possessions than people.

Marketing Character: These people see relationships in terms of WIIFM (What's in it For Me). They focus on marrying someone for their financial security or social status and tend to be shallow and anxious. They are opportunistic and capable of flip flopping on core values and beliefs depending on if they think it will get them what they want.

Productive Character (relationship oriented): The productive (relationship oriented) person takes negative energy and channels it into productivity. They focus on building loving, nurturing, and meaningful relationships with other people. This applies not only to romantic partners, but also to other relationships with family, friends, and their community. They are often described as a good person, parent, sibling, friend, co-worker, boss or employee.

Out of the five character types described by Fromm, the productive type is the only one who possesses a natural, healthy way of dealing with anxiety that results from the conflict between the need for freedom and the need to belong. For better or worse if this isn't your natural character type but you still wish to have a healthy, happy relationship consider combining our coaching program with our matchmaking service and develop an unnatural, healthy way of dealing with anxiety that results from the conflict between your need for freedom and your need to belong. Get started HERE

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*Our Guarantee. The information we provide regarding other individuals is reliable to the best of our knowledge. Everyone has their identity, age and photos verified and is subject to public record background checks. If information we provide is found to be inaccurate we discount the match and try again. We cannot guarantee or promise a certain outcome or result from matchmaking or coaching. Nothing we say or do can be construed as a guarantee about the outcome of your experience. Our past or future comments about the outcome of your experience, potential matches, estimates of fees and time frames or our opinions are not guarantees. Actual fees and time frames may vary from the estimates given.