Southern California Matchmaker



Whether we are matchmaking in Los Angeles, recruiting in Orange County or setting up singles in San Diego, Southern California singles turn to our professional matchmakers and personal coaches to find the love they're looking for. 

Singles in Los Angeles, Orange, Riverside, Santa Barbara and San Diego Counties rely on us to find their ideal match and steer them into the relationship they're looking for. Whether you're in Hollywood or Huntington Beach, Santa Monica or San Diego, Santa Barbara, Irvine, Newport Beach or beyond, we can be of service to you. 

We verify photos, conduct face-to-face interviews and run background checks to provide a safe and worry-free experience. View photos, read profiles, ask us anything and speak to potential matches before you meet. It's no wonder why we are the number one matchmaker in The Golden State.

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Online dating is difficult. We guarantee matches that meet your criteria. Your personal coach and dedicated matchmakers will communicate feedback, troubleshoot issues and guide you into a relationship.

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Joann Ward has been matchmaking for over 30 years. Her son, Steve Ward followed in her footsteps in 2003. They became internationally known matchmakers as Hosts and Executive Producers of VH1 Tough Love

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You're Never Going to Be Happily Married, Unless...

Tuesday, March 14, 2017


You're Never Going to Be Happily Married, Unless...

As a matchmaker and dating coach, I classify people into one of two categories. They're either relationship oriented or not. Many people, men and women alike, truly believe they are fit for a relationship. They think they have everything going for them. They're healthy emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially. They want to have a traditional, nuclear family in a two parent household where both of them can grow as individuals and together as one. But there is one key difference between the relationship oriented people out there, and everyone else.

To the relationship oriented the relationship comes first. You've heard of all the other orientations people have; career oriented, family oriented, sexually oriented, spiritually oriented, etc. It's your orientation that determines your character, and not all character types are condusive to relationships. There has been great debate and extensive study into which character types are "productive" and which are "unproductive".

You may think you're relationship oriented and capable of what you envision, but in reality you're really not. You're never going to be truly happily married, unless you have the right character.

According to Erich Fromm, a neo-Freudian psychoanalyst, personality type is based on two primary needs; freedom and belonging. Kendra Cherry, did a great job of summarizing his philosophy on verywell.com which I've paraphrased here quite a bit.

Fromm determined there are five personality types and every one is one of them. 4/5 are "unproductive" or in the context of relationships, counterproductive.

Receptive Character: The receptive type is constantly in need of support; emotionally, financially, etc. They have a tendency​ to be passive, needy, and completely dependent upon others. Although these people constantly require support they rarely, if ever, reciprocate. People with this character type tend to lack confidence have a difficult time making decisions for themselves. They tend to have grown up with overbearing and controlling parents or parental figures.

Exploitative Character: These people will deceive, mislead, and twist others in order to satisfy their selfish needs. They regularly seek people with low self-esteem or will lie about loving someone they really don't care about. They take what they want either through deceit or force and will exploit others if necessary.

Hoarding Character: These people deal with insecurity by never disposing of or giving up anything. They often collect meaningless objects and will care more about their possessions than people.

Marketing Character: These people see relationships in terms of WIIFM (What's in it For Me). They focus on marrying someone for their financial security or social status and tend to be shallow and anxious. They are opportunistic and capable of flip flopping on core values and beliefs depending on if they think it will get them what they want.

Productive Character (relationship oriented): The productive (relationship oriented) person takes negative energy and channels it into productivity. They focus on building loving, nurturing, and meaningful relationships with other people. This applies not only to romantic partners, but also to other relationships with family, friends, and their community. They are often described as a good person, parent, sibling, friend, co-worker, boss or employee.

Out of the five character types described by Fromm, the productive type is the only one who possesses a natural, healthy way of dealing with anxiety that results from the conflict between the need for freedom and the need to belong. For better or worse if this isn't your natural character type but you still wish to have a healthy, happy relationship consider combining our coaching program with our matchmaking service and develop an unnatural, healthy way of dealing with anxiety that results from the conflict between your need for freedom and your need to belong. Get started HERE

 

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