Select Date Society Reviews and Alternatives (2026)

Amber Lee has been a professional matchmaker since 1998 and Sandra Myers since 1996, both before Master Matchmakers opened in 2001. If you came here for Select Date Society reviews, the firm they founded is one I take seriously, and one I compete with: its market list and ours both include Washington, DC and Boston.

So I will leave its results to the people who lived them and stay with what anyone can check. Everything below about the firm comes from selectdatesociety.com: we read all 246 pages its sitemaps list in November 2026. Where it prints a price or a promise, you get its words and the page, with the date where the page shows one.

Select Date Society Cost: What the Site Prints

Three statements about its own pricing turn up on the site. Each is quoted here as printed.

The first of those blog posts adds that the price depends on "the type of membership you shall sign up for." Concierge, Platinum and Executive VIP have no individual published price that we could find on the site, as of November 2026. Its Toronto page says, "Pricing is discussed during your initial private consultation." That conversation is where you will learn the fee for the level you are offered.

Four Levels, Four Different Services

What you buy here depends on the level, and the membership page is specific about it.

• Concierge, labeled "Basic Membership." You work with certified matchmakers, a Date Concierge handles the scheduling and the setting, and clients receive "one insight session during membership."
• Platinum, labeled "Client Approved Matches." The page says, "Platinum clients discuss and approve all date selections before meetings," and it adds "scheduled insight sessions after each date."
• Executive VIP, labeled "White Glove Service - Limited Space." It is "overseen by the founders, Sandra Myers and Amber Lee," opens with a "Private Co-Founder Briefing" and adds "a dedicated recruiter."
• The Founders Club, described as offering "founder-led support."

An insight session is the firm's term for a feedback conversation. On Platinum, it says, "Our Matchmakers share insights about your date's experience."

The detail I would credit most is the limit on Executive VIP, which the firm says is "intentionally limited to just five clients at any given time." A stated cap is a commitment you can test: ask how many of the five places are open. The founders also appear before anyone joins. The same page tells a prospective client, "You'll meet Amber Lee or Sandra Myers."

Amber Lee, Sandra Myers and the Markets They List

Amber Lee is the firm's CEO and co-founder, and Sandra Myers is its president and co-founder. The About page describes Amber Lee as a certified matchmaker and enneagram coach, and Sandra Myers as a certified matchmaker with a degree in speech communications and organizational management. Around them it describes a team with "backgrounds in psychology, coaching, recruiting, and relationship strategy."

Its address is in Richmond, Virginia. The About page says it serves singles "throughout major markets including Miami, Palm Beach, New York, Silicon Valley, Beverly Hills, Los Angeles, Washington DC, Boston, other US cities and internationally in cities such as London, Dubai, Toronto, Milan, and Paris." If your search crosses an ocean, that reach is written into the pitch. Its London page says the process begins with a video consultation "with one of our co-founders."

The About page also says, "A portion of every membership goes directly to the American Heart Association."

Who Select Date Society Is Writing For

The About page says, "SDS clients expect to be one of the select few, not one of many." That sets the tone across the site: a boutique pitch to people whose careers are settled and whose personal life is the open question. Two specialty pages narrow it further.

Its Ivy League Matchmaking page declines the obvious sale. Having listed the schools its clients attended, it says, "A shared alma mater does not create connection." I would say the same.

Its celebrity page explains why high-profile clients see less on the site: "Our celebrity matchmaking memberships are unavailable on the SDS site as they are tailored to each celebrity/high-profile individual based on their unique circumstances of public visibility."

How a Select Date Society Introduction Reaches You

A process post printed June 06, 2025 runs from a consultation and a search to what it calls curated introductions. That stage, it says, includes "an introductory phone call or an exchange of a detailed form" so two people can learn about each other before dating. On timing, its Toronto page says, "Most clients begin receiving introductions within four to six weeks of their initial consultation."

From there the logistics leave your hands. "Our Date Concierge manages everything," the membership page says, from scheduling to the setting, and the process post describes collecting your feedback afterward to refine the search. For someone whose calendar is the real obstacle, that is a service worth having.

Select Date Society Reviews on Its Own Site

The firm's Testimonials page prints client stories under couples' first names, and every one of them is its own selection. One reads, "This is the best team." Read that page as what the firm wants you to see, which is what any firm's testimonial page is.

Its membership page ties the Executive VIP cap to results: "This commitment to exclusivity is what drives our exceptional success rate." We found no percentage, couples count or marriage count across the 246 pages, as of November 2026.

The homepage headline reads "Private, Elite Matchmaking With Guaranteed Quality Introductions." Its promise is worded around introductions. On outcomes the two of us stand in the same place: a post printed April 04, 2023 says "no matchmaker can guarantee a perfect match," and our own site says we cannot guarantee a specific outcome.

A Select Date Society Alternative: A Presentation Is Not a Match

If direct access to the founders or a search abroad is the thing you want, its pages speak to that.

At Master Matchmakers, a Presentation is not a Match, and a meeting that does not happen does not count against the contract. Clients see photos and talk by phone before anyone meets. Every candidate is identity-verified and background-checked before they are introduced.

We work nationwide from Palm Beach Gardens, Florida, and more than 65,000 singles have passed through our private network since 2001. There is no fixed term and hold time is unlimited, as long as you check in at least once every six months. Master Matchmakers' fees start at $3,500, and the more open you are about who and where you will be matched, the lower the fee.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is Select Date Society?

Select Date Society is a matchmaking firm founded by Amber Lee and Sandra Myers, with its address in Richmond, Virginia. It sells four membership levels: Concierge, Platinum, Executive VIP and the Founders Club. Its About page lists major US markets, including Washington DC and Boston, and cities abroad such as London and Dubai.

Does Select Date Society list a price for each membership level?

No, not as far as we could find. As of November 2026, Concierge, Platinum and Executive VIP have no individual published price on its site, and its Toronto page says pricing comes up at the initial private consultation. The prices it does state are quoted above, each with its page and date.

What does the Select Date Society Executive VIP membership include?

Executive VIP is overseen by founders Sandra Myers and Amber Lee and, by the firm's account, limited to five clients at a time. It includes a one-on-one briefing with a co-founder and a dedicated recruiter who sources candidates for your matchmaker, in one region or internationally.

Does Select Date Society guarantee a match?

No, by its own account. Its homepage headline offers quality introductions, and a 2023 post says no matchmaker can promise a perfect match. Master Matchmakers says the same about outcomes on its own site: under the law, we cannot guarantee a specific outcome.

What are the alternatives to Select Date Society?

Master Matchmakers is the alternative I can speak for. A Presentation is not a Match, a meeting that does not happen does not count against the contract, and every candidate is identity-verified and background-checked before introduction. We work nationwide. Fees start at $3,500, and the more open you are, the lower the fee.

The Level Is the First Decision

At Select Date Society, the level you buy decides how often a matchmaker debriefs you, whether you approve a match before you meet, and how close you get to the founders. So settle the level first, then ask what it includes.

Two questions carry over to any firm: what exactly am I buying, and who does the work? Our How It Works page answers both for us.